Are Toxic People Eroding Your Emotional Resiliency?

Everyone knows that the physical body needs to be sheltered from extreme weather or it could become sick or injured.

What not everyone considers is that the mind and emotions also need shelter.

What you expose yourself to, including who you expose yourself to, will determine how well you are able to maintain emotional resiliency.

Emotional resiliency is part of the immune system. Keeping it strong is the best prevention and cure for mental, emotional and even physical health issues.

What this all means is that if you want to stay well, you must cut toxic people out of your life. This can be one of the most difficult challenges in life, especially if those people happen to be family or other loved ones.

Dr. Phil refers to these toxic people as BAITERs, which is an acronym for:

• Backstabbers
• Abusers
• Imposters
• Takers
• Exploiters
• Reckless

The best way to figure out if someone is a BAITER is to listen to your gut. You can watch the video below for more. It’s well worth the six minutes of your life, so please don’t just skip past it without tuning in.

It’s more than likely that you are all ready aware of the people in your life that you should keep your distance from. You might feel it is impossible to get away from these people, or you might make excuses about how it’s “okay” to be around them.

At the same time, if you are serious about getting and staying healthy, then you must drop the excuses and start taking care of business.

If you aren’t sure who is safe, then think about who you are around and what they bring into your life. For example, if someone gossips, talks poorly and/or lies to other people – don’t kid yourself – they WILL also do that to you.

Sheltering Yourself from BAITERs

→ Stop making excuses for unacceptable behavior

→ Keep and set boundaries

→ Be kind, respectful and as firm as you need to be

→ Practice saying NO as a complete sentence

→ Surround yourself with positive people and dedicate your time to them

BAITERs in the Workplace

• Keep a professional demeanor at all cost!
• Limit your engagement to the business at hand.
• Walk away from attempts to draw you in to office drams by simply stating, “I need to focus on my work”
• Save all email or electronic communications.
• Do not share any information with him/her/them that you don’t mind everyone else knowing.
• Stay busy and avoid socializing with workplace baiters to the best of your ability.

BAITERs at Home

→ Set a goal to move or have the person move from the residence. You must provide a sanctuary for yourself living with someone that is not in your best interest will make that impossible.

→ Limit your time with the person as much as possible.

→ Remain diligent about avoiding drama or allowing your boundaries to be disrespected.

Stop allowing toxic people to damage your health. When you distance yourself from the person or people who are unhealthy for you, not only do you preserve your own health, but you aslso set an example for those you love of how they can also take care of their health.