Guide to Building Emotional Strength and ResiliencyOctober 1, 2016
The Ego ProjectOctober 10, 2016
For an immediately noticeable impact on how you feel – right now – follow these tips:
Feel Better Right Now:
Drink a glass of water. It helps improve the way your brain operates. When you are thinking better, you feel better.
Correct your posture. Sitting and standing tall, yet relaxed will have an immediate physiological impact that will naturally boost your feelings of confidence and strength.
Become present to your immediate environment. This is the only true moment you are alive. When you are in the past and future, you are a ghost. Avoid being a ghost.
Repeat, repeat, repeat.
Continue to Feel Better:
→ Commit to doing some form of exercise. It doesn’t have to be super strenuous or time consuming. Do five jumping jacks, or run up and down stairs for a few minutes. This releases endorphins, or “feel good” chemicals that you need to feel great.
→ Soothe yourself in moderation. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the pursuit of happiness that we forget that true success comes with work boots and hard hat. Don’t be afraid to get tough on yourself to take care of business today that will assure a better tomorrow.
→ Never give up what you want the most for what you want today. It might be more fun to blow off steam once in awhile, in fact, every once in awhile it’s a good thing. When you are not where you want to be financially, emotionally, physically or in your primary relationship, then – while you might temporarily feel better – you will actually start feeling worse about yourself. So, take care of business first and save all the fun stuff as an occasional reward for work well done.
→ Live from your values and promises. Challenge yourself to develop and live the qualities you most admire. Is it truth, integrity, inner strength, something else? Write down your most important values right now and commit yourself to honoring them in everything you do.
→ Stick with the winners. If you catch yourself saying things such as, “Sure, they lie, cheat or act in other ways I don’t approve of – that’s none of my business”. Actually, it seriously is your business who you align yourself with. When you stick with the winners, you will become a winner.
→ Forgive yourself. We are all struggling, we all make mistakes and we all wish there are things we would have done differently. Crying over spilled milk never cleans up the mess – so, release those regrets, every day if you have to and make amends to you by choosing to do better today.
→ Start living from the inside out. By that I mean develop your spirituality. Nurture your higher self/inner self/connection with nature/relationship with the Divine. However you experience your own essence really doesn’t matter, just do what feels best to live from that spot inside that feels it’s a part of something more than your physical shell.
→ Stop looking for outside validation. You know what’s right – do that. You might not win a popularity contest, and do you really want that? When you are struggling to feel great about yourself, you aren’t going to be able to fully enjoy love from others anyway, it’s just a false and momentary ego boost that will not help in those quiet times when you are alone with yourself.
Feeling great about yourself isn’t about being indulgent. You gain strength when you push yourself to do your best and the rewards that follow the efforts will be priceless to your self-confidence and self esteem. Sure, you need balance to, but balance doesn’t mean to put a mediocre effort into what you are doing. Instead, work HARD, play HARD, rest DEEPLY. Then, repeat that too!