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We can all agree that accountability is a primary habit to develop in order to achieve the successful type of life we dream, however you define what that means to you.
Unfortunately, many of us have been taught that accountability means beating ourselves up, or suffering in shame for every perceived mistake we think we make. This way, accountability can be very self-abusive.
However, there is a new way to take responsibility for our own actions, that is much more likely to produce postive results and enhance self-love efforts. Let’s look at something else though. Let’s consider compassionate accountabilty.
Does compassionate accountability sound like an oxymoron?
Compassionate accountability is an approach to holding ourselves accountable for our actions and decisions with a focus on empathy and understanding. It sounds oxymoronic because compassion involves being understanding and empathetic towards others, while accountability involves taking responsibility for one’s actions and being answerable for the consequences. However, when you compbine the two you have a powerful tool for creating positive and lasting changes.
Here’s how to do it:.
- Take an honest look at your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, without judgment or self-blame.
- Acknowledge the impact of your thoughts and behaviors on your own well-being.
- Express empathy and understanding towards yourself, recognizing that everyone makes mistakes and experiences challenges.
- Take responsibility for your actions and decisions, without making excuses or avoiding accountability.
- Make a genuine effort to address any harm caused to yourself, which may involve seeking support or making changes to your behavior or thought patterns.
- Learn from your mistakes and use them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
- Focus on the underlying causes of any negative patterns or behaviors, and work towards addressing them.
- Be patient and compassionate with yourself throughout the process, recognizing that change takes time and effort.
Give it a try, and see how much better it feels to feels to be kind while pursuing a more responsible and honest life!